Many
single people may keep asking themselves if is okay to stay single or
is it better to get married. Well staying single is not a sin. But if
been single causes you to have sexual sin then you should married.
Keep in mind that as Christians singles, we are not to be going out
and start dating different people like the world. We are to stay clean
for that special someone that God will put in our path. Now a days
people think that is okay to “try before you buy” this means they want
to see if things will work out and we allow to have intimacy with our
partners before committing to marriage. Often times people live this
kind of life for some time and you need to understand that this is a
sinful way of living your life and you are not bringing glory to our God
at all. So if you meet someone well is okay to have a friendship and to
go out as long as there is no intimacy. Keep in mind that if you can
not control yourself and you happen to have a weak flesh then you should
get married. Not to just anyone but to the right person. A godly person
that has God and loves the Lord before anything else, even yourself.
Not just loving and believing by words but by actions. Anyone could say
that they believe in the Lord but do they walk the talk?
Avoid touching each other to prevent temptation. A good friend will
never want to start something that he is not willing to finish. You
never want to go there since it is a path for a sinful relationship and
ones you start how can you stop it?
If you do get married, be loyal to each other.
But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 7:2 NLT
Remember that if you and your partner are both believers you need to understand that you are marrying that special one for life.
6 Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”
Matthew 19:6
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9 let no one split apart what God has joined together.”
Mark 10:9
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Nothing should break this marriage apart but two things. Death or
adultery. If you do get divorce without any of this 2 reasons, then you
will make her/him to commit adultery.
31 “You have heard the law that says, ‘A man can divorce
his wife by merely giving her a written notice of divorce.’ 32 But I say
that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful,
causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman
also commits adultery.
Matthew 5:31-32
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Five reasons for singles to go for marriage.
1. Procreation
28 Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and
multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea,
the birds in the sky, and all the animals that scurry along the ground.”
Genesis 1:28
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2. Pleasure
4 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one
another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and
those who commit adultery.
Hebrews 13:4
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3. Provision
You take a wife in order that you might protect her and care for her
and nourish her as the Lord does the church. You are now to support your
wife and kids. You are also to learn more about God so you could now
teach your first ministry which is your family about the Lord and His
commandments.
4. Partnership
It is not good to be alone, you need a helper. Many people are very
okay to be on their own while others suffer greatly from loneliness and
they often times get depress because they feel that no one will ever
marry them. God intension is to give us a partner. In this way, we won’t
feel lonely and we could serve God as a couple. Remember, it doesn’t
mean that as soon as you find a godly man from your local church that
you will stop attending and now you will dedicate your life to your
husband. We are to love and dedicate our life to God and a godly partner
will be with you all the way and will understand the real meaning of
growing in knowledge of Christ.
5. Purity
The bed is not defiled, it’s undefiled. The
husband then must fulfill his duty to his wife and likewise also the
wife to her husband.
3 The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs.
1 Corinthians 7:3
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Paul says, “Look, it’s okay to be single, it’s okay to live without
any relationships with the opposite sex, but it’s a whole lot better to
marry because of immoralities. And then when you do marry, you have the
duty to fulfill to each other.” That duty, obviously, is to render the
physical affection that is consistent and God-ordained for the
procreation and the pleasure of people in a marriage.
In fact, the duty is so high in a marriage that the wife doesn’t even
have authority over her own body, the husband does. And likewise, the
husband doesn’t have authority over his own body but the wife does. So,
stop depriving one another. Paul says that’s not what God is asking.
Have your own wife, have your own husband and fulfill your duties to
each other. And do not deprive each other of that.”
5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless
you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you
can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should
come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of
your lack of self-control.
1 Corinthians 7:5
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If there is some exigency in your life, some trauma in your life,
some issue in your life which much like fasting from food, consumes you
with sadness and sorrow, these kinds of things flee your mind. You agree
to that. But come together again.” Why? “So that Satan will not tempt
you because of your lack of self-control.” Don’t do that. You give Satan
opportunity.
So the opposite is true. You think that you’ll be more pure by
withholding that. The truth is, you’re going to go right down the path
that Satan wants you to go into sin cause you’re going to be tempted
because of your inability to exercise self-control. Get married for the
sake of purity and when you’re married, fulfill your marriage covenant
physically, do not deprive each other except for some great spiritual
cause and come back together again so that you don’t put yourself in a
position that Satan would tempt you because of your lack of
self-control.
While you are still single
32 I want you to be free from the concerns of this life.
An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking
how to please him.
1 Corinthians 7:32
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I want you to be free from concern, one who is unmarried is concerned
about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord, but one who
is married is concerned about the things of the world how he may please
his wife and his interests are divided.
34 His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman
who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the
Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think
about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband.
1 Corinthians 7:34
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So there are some benefits to being single. If you have been given by
God the gift, each man has his own gift. Spend that time and invest it
with the Lord. Get closer to Him and learn more and serve Him in your
local churches and join a ministry. It is hard to stay away from
temptation but if you do have that gift then be bless and enjoy your
time with happinness. what did Jesus say? “But not all men can handle
that. Not everybody can handle that.”
10 Jesus’ disciples then said to him, “If this is the
case, it is better not to marry!” 11 “Not everyone can accept this
statement,” Jesus said. “Only those whom God helps.
Matthew 19:10-11
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Staying singles It’s honorable. It has great potential to keep you
single-minded and focused. But it’s a gift, it’s a unique gift. The gift
is best known by those who feel strong, complete comfort in being
single and no strong desire for a partner, for an intimate partner, a
life partner. It’s an option. But please don’t conclude that there’s
anything wrong with a God-given gift of physical intimacy. Singleness,
the last thing that God wants out of singleness is sexual promiscuity.
Be single if that’s not a problem. If that’s a problem, get married.
Is sexual activity unspiritual? No. But it must be perform while been in a marriage so it won’t become a sin in your life.
If you don’t have the gift of singleness. Should the formerly married remarry?
Yes if they desire to be married because it’s better to be married than
to burn. But if you can be single, be single and focus on the Kingdom.
You’re single and you come to Christ. Are you now supposed to be a monk the rest of your life? Are you supposed to be celibate the rest of your life? No. If you have that gift, fine. If you don’t, get married.
Becoming a Christian does not of necessity mean that you have to make
some dramatic alteration of your marital status. That’s not what the
Lord requires.
If you can remain single in the service of Christ, do so, but not to
the jeopardy of your purity. If that’s an issue, get married. And if
that’s an issue, don’t postpone your marriage cause marriage postponed
constitutes an illegitimate single life. Just think about it if you are
indeed getting married in a year from now? What might happen between now
and then, do you have any idea?
Single people, don’t delay. If God’s designed you for marriage, get
married. If you’re divorced or widowed and you can stay single, stay
single. If not, and you have grounds for remarriage, get married. If
you’re widowed and you can stay single, if not get married.
“I’m so far down the line, I’ve already messed up all that.”
Well you’ll be glad to know if we confess our sins, He’s faithful and
just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
It’s all about His forgiveness.
Are you ready to be forgiven? Make the decision and
follow Christ and be ready to be use in a magnificent way to glorify the name of the Lord.